Sexual relations indeed something that was very natural. However, the quality and extraordinary sexual life satisfactory, needed the ingredients from several matters, like the positive perception, creativity, as well as first-rate stamina. The life of the couple Ardi and Emma might be it was said happy. Through the age five marriage years, they stayed harmonious, very the adequacy, and again have two healthy children. Only, almost two months later they felt the existence of the decline in the sexual life. They often felt fast tired and stamina declined, so as the passion then was lost. To get the extraordinary sexual life, was not enough only by maintaining fitness or the health of the body generally. The couple also must be able to create in many matters, beginning with communication, the similarity of the perception in the matter achieved sexual satisfaction, as well as needed intelligence in memaknai these relations. "As in the case of other knowledge, the problem" of "sex must be also studied, good that from the case and the person’s other experience, through the book or the specialist’s opinion."
That made the person understand, including in looking for the upper solution to various obstacles in sexual relations, said Dr. Nugroho Setiawan, Sp.And., androlog from the Grasia Clinic, Jakarta.

Must be Learned

A research about the sexual behaviour showed, true sexual relations and took place harmonious could not be reached naturally. That must be studied and re-educateed together by the couple. Without the efforts, sex of only an activity on the bed. Further the relations then susceptible to because of the occurrence  dishonest and the divorce. Therefore, the creation and intelligence in the sexual matter were needed to press the risk of the couple’s relations that slid to the side of no harmony.


Intelligence could not be separated from the positive perception. In this case the couple was prosecuted to have the perception that was good on the sexual life. The view that sex was the matter of the taboo must be thrown away very far. With this thinking, both the woman and the man could openly reveal the obstacle or dissatisfaction in their intimate activity. Intelligence and mental fitness will bring them in the calm attitude or relaxed during mengomunikasikan this disturbance. Often was heard by us about the emotional explosion or anger that broke out, just because the failure had sex. The method like this clear did not offer some sort solutions. On the other hand, tended to be easy to cause the guilt to one of the sides and left the conflict. Also must be realised that the woman might have an active attitude in had sex. Not only the husband who always must be holding the control on this activity, while the wife became the "statue". "This interaction will be better if being built on the second activity the side." The active attitude and the sexual enjoyment or orgasm for the woman completely not the sin. So enjoyed as you well-off, said Dr. Nugroho. When the sexual enjoyment was only felt by one of the sides, would fast caused saturation. Not only for the couple who for a long time has married, but also was risky for the new couple. "To the old couple, sexual saturation especially as a result of by monotoni, both in the matter" of the "atmosphere and the sexual behaviour," said Prof. Dr. Wimpie Pangkahila, Sp.And., FAACS., Professor of the Universitas Udayana School Of Medicine, Denpasar, Bali.
That sexual contact could continue to be maintained, in fact was increased, needed the existence of creativity from respectively this couple.
 
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